Why you should ask for Forgiveness.

Here’s something you won’t see everyday, how many would send a letter to an opposite party asking for forgiveness? Probably not many I suspect. Watch the movies? You’ll regularly hear prosecutors in court say “Forgive Me your honour”.

What could the judge say in reply? Perhaps: “get on with it then”, “we don’t have all day”, “I’m in no mood for forgiveness today”, and it goes on.

So what’s really happening here? Why not just say “sorry”, or “I apologise”. Simple – “Forgive Me” is a question, “Sorry/I Apologise” are statements. So if you’re in court and say “Forgive Me”, you’re asking the Judge to forgive you for an error of some kind. This is a form of contracting, by asking for forgiveness you are placing the onus back onto the Judge or opposite party to forgive you. If they say “No”, isn’t there now a controversy created by them? Shouldn’t they show cause why forgiveness cannot be forthcoming? Then you can resolve the issue if one exists, right?

A creditor will ask for forgiveness

A debtor will say “I’m sorry”

So what about in your correspondence? Could you ask for forgiveness there too? And if the opposite party does not  specifically say “No” to your offer, then haven’t they forgiven you? For example, you could add this paragraph into your notice to the plaintiff:

  • ‘ The Undersigned offers no excuse for being remiss in not carrying out the Undersigned’s duties seasonably to resolve the matter of the Summons. The Undersigned has only two words for any inconvenience or offence the Undersigned has caused, “FORGIVE ME”. ‘

There’s nothing wrong with asking for forgiveness, if you’re late with a reply, or were angry last time you spoke etc. It’s goodness in resolving controversy.